yes, speaking of perspectives.. here's a dilemma that all of us face at some point or another.
im knowingly offering an opposite view of the matter in respect to this thread, that IMHO is still worth considering. i hereby DISCLAIM that whatever i write is not to speculate or comment on blitzkid's current dilemma. its a mere neutral observation. his friend might be the asshole he is or he may not. it all depends on a certain point of view (got that from Obi Wan Kenobi - Ep. 6)
ever thought of how WE would feel in that "asshole" friend's place? its nature to humans that we only relate and believe what WE alone think is right. no matter how humble a person is, there are just moments when we will always feel that the another person is wrong about us.
im NOT saying that u are wrong, i have no say bcoz each situation is unique, and persons outside ur circle of friends should never pass judgement based on his, or ur own perception for that matter. he may be a real asshole to u, but he may think that he's just being himself with others (perhaps the 'new' peers he got now)
ANYWAY, sorry for confusing all of u with stupid ramblings, my point is; NO ONE PERSON is liked by all. get the point? ALL of us have friends which love us, dont love us, and enemies who hate us. what i would wish everyone would realize is, the crisis isnt always THEIR fault alone. situations force us into things like this, with sometimes its NOBODY's fault, just a simple misunderstanding. if u have come to understood what i mean so far, then u can relate to what im going to write next.
example given. i got a new sports car and a sudden fortune. i still try my best to keep as i was and try to be humble. however news travel fast among my friends and word gets out about my status jump. some of my long time friends are happy for me and may ask for 1 open table session celebrating my newfound happiness. all is nice and fine bcoz this became a catalyst for our gang to get back together for once.
then comes a paranoid period. suddenly more people out of my normal public relations (means other than work and ppl *I* seek) come to me out of nowhere to be 'friends' with me. naturally as a human being, it is extremely difficult to avoid some suspicion (the only difference is whether u show it or not) and be wary since i've got something to worry about that i never had before (my status,money etc). some old friends even start to call me often trying to be "familiar" again and become close friends. I try not to let paranoia cloud my good graces and keep my thoughts to myself.. but then the nagging starts.
ppl start asking me for help. friends, fine. help them and entertained them once, twice, a few times. suddenly im a celebrity in a sense that i am the one everyone can depend on. more and more 'friends' i never knew i had, start to crawl up my feet for something, anything.. and in the end, at least 5% of those ppl will either take advantage of me, disappear with my money or etc. and start giving shit about helping me in return bla2 (excuses yknow)
5% is all it takes to change me into the "asshole-friend-who-forgot-where-he-came-from" to almost all my previous friends. with exception of my closest of friends whom i confide in to tell all my worries and problems, who stick with me for old times sake.. a number of my casual friends, old or 'new' will automatically get a wary, sceptical treatment. thats when i stop answering calls from repeated offenders/backstabbers, decline to meet up by giving work excuses etc just to avoid those 5 goddamn % of shitty leechers. this unavoidably affects other good friends who are also friends with the 5% shitheads, who promptly spread the word. bad gossip travels fast, and is instantly believable only bcoz im rich or well off.
at the end of the day, and the fact of the matter is, no matter which side u're on, u cant make EVERYONE happy. someone out there doesnt like u, doesnt understand u.. and it may or may not be ur fault, and it may be NOBODY's fault. it just is.
