Dear Twisted Angel...
I know i don't read much of your post and am around 40% in the dark of what is happening. Well, when i broke up, i too wanna get the bugger out of my life and stuff... Now, looking at your situation, he does not want to pick up your calls and reply your smses.. and i think he is also trying to cut you out of his life.
How much did he owe you? Can you get erm.. Mr Headache or someone to PM or email him (since you said that he's also a zth forumer). Ask them to write to him nicely and maybe pass the $$ and your stuff to you friend or something. Maybe he does not want to see you also.. I'm just speculating here... so, try and ask someone to go in between.. Maybe he'll reply their emails and you'll know what to do from there.
I do believe that you're a smart girl. Try to put your feelings aside and think for a moment.. and i'm sure you cna come up with a better idea. Breaking up is hurtful.. but breaking up with a dumbo idiot jerk is... irritating.. :)
Keep your cool and try other ways first.. don't resort to the ways that can physically hurt a person.. he can then charge you or make a police report.. and it is definately not worth it. Remember one thing.. about his mom.. parents will always side their children.. so, it is not a suprise that she treated you badly when you went over to their place. Just don't keep it in heart or mind.. just forget it.. he's not worth u thinking so much about him..! :)
~ IvY ~