Braking is actually a function of pressure and time. "Reducing the spongy feel" by using steel braided brakes lines and using higher dot rating fluid basically means reducing the time taken for the brake system to reach maximum braking pressure. This happens because :
a) The rubber/teflon hose inside the steel braid has only the confined space inside the steel braid to expand when brakes are applied.
b) Higher dot rating hydraulic fluid has a lower compression capacity, again reducing the time taken for max pressure to be achieved.
Whether they last longer or not, depends on the quality of the brake line installed. Technically, these are supposed to be high pressure hydraulic lines, and if properly made, will generally last years. My Goodridge set lasted me 5 years until I was forced to get rid of the car in Sg without a leak. The ones under my car now, are locally made, but have yet to start leaking.
You are right that 4-pot calipers should work better by DISTRIBUTING the force over a larger surface area. BUT, the amount of force remains the same, simply distributed over a larger area. The question is...is it really necessary? A combination of good response time, plus good brake pads should suffice for most people here.
A direct way of increasing braking efficiency without major surgery is to increase the clamping pressure of the existing brake calipers. But this has to be done carefully, or you'll actually start to leak...
And I haven't even started on the material and design of the disk yet...